S3+S4: user param auth, static file serving, Docker deploy config

- replace hardcoded benji with ?user= query param
- add GET /api/users and GET /api/me?user= endpoints
- serve frontend static files via tower-http ServeDir
- add multi-stage Dockerfile (Rust + Vite → single image)
- add docker-compose.yml + Caddyfile for apes.unslope.com
- frontend: getCurrentUsername() from URL param → localStorage
- sidebar shows current user

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.6 (1M context) <noreply@anthropic.com>

infra/colony/Caddyfile

@@ -0,0 +1,3 @@
+apes.unslope.com {
+    reverse_proxy colony:3001
+}